If you are looking at MyWishes, you are already doing the thing most people put off. That is worth saying first, because what follows is a comparison, and comparisons can read as though one thing has to lose.
This one does not. MyWishes and Y.O.D.O. do different jobs, and the honest answer for most people is that they are complementary rather than rival.
What MyWishes is for
MyWishes is a UK end-of-life planning suite. It helps you document funeral wishes, write goodbye letters, and record advance care preferences, with structured templates for each. It is an established UK provider with hospice partnerships, and its core service is free, with paid features on top.
Its strength is documentation. If your priority is getting your funeral preferences, advance care decisions and structured letters written down properly, that is what it is built for, and it is good at it.
What Y.O.D.O. is for
Y.O.D.O. is a private communication support service. It does two things MyWishes does not set out to do.
It checks in on you while you are alive. Scheduled Check-ins, Quick Check-ins, and a Care Pause for travel or a hospital stay. If you go quiet past your chosen buffer, the Delegates you named are contacted. Nobody is documenting anything at that point. Someone is simply noticing.
It releases sealed messages only after a passing has been verified. Each message is sealed for a named Recipient. Release is gated by a Delegate's verified passing report, a death certificate, and a dispute window. Not by a date, and not by someone deciding the moment has come.
The difference that actually matters
MyWishes answers what should happen. Y.O.D.O. answers is this person all right, and if not, who needs to know.
That is why the two fit together. A funeral wish is a document. A missed Check-in is an event. Documents wait patiently; events need someone to act.
There is a fuller, feature-by-feature version of this on our Y.O.D.O. vs MyWishes comparison page, including where each one is the better choice.
The part that connects to your funeral wishes
Here is where the two genuinely meet.
MyWishes is where your funeral wishes live. Y.O.D.O. does not hold them, but it can reach the people who carry them out.
Y.O.D.O. works with professionals across several partner categories: funeral directors, solicitors and notaries, healthcare professionals, charities, employers and other trusted organisations. Someone you already deal with can be named as a Special Delegate, and once a passing has been confirmed they are notified, so arrangements you agreed with them can begin promptly. A funeral director holding your pre-paid plan is told, acknowledges receipt, and the process you arranged with them starts.
Two limits, stated plainly. Y.O.D.O. does not send them your funeral wishes; it tells them a passing has been verified, and what happens next is whatever you arranged with that professional directly. And only solicitors and notaries can take any part in verification itself, optional, only if you enable it, and never in place of our own review. Every other category is notified after the fact and nothing more. There is more on our Partners page.
So the pairing is cleaner than it first looks. MyWishes is where the wishes are written down. Y.O.D.O. is what makes sure the right professional knows the moment has come.
What Y.O.D.O. is not
Y.O.D.O. does not replace a will, an advance decision, or a funeral plan. It does not store legal documents, funeral instructions, or healthcare directives. If that is what you need, a dedicated end-of-life planning service or a solicitor is the right answer, and MyWishes is a reasonable place to start.
We would rather say that plainly than win a comparison by blurring it.
So which one?
Choose MyWishes if your priority is documenting funeral wishes, advance care preferences, or writing structured goodbye letters.
Choose Y.O.D.O. if you want someone to notice when you go quiet, and you want sealed messages released only after a passing has been verified, to the people you named.
Choose both if, like most people, you want the documents written and someone keeping an eye out in the meantime. They do not overlap, so nothing is wasted.